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Sent August 7, 7:30 pm
Jorg,
I read and understand your letter...doesn't need to be long letter, short would do if its direct to the point...
I think i don't need to explain everything to you, as far as i can remember i told you already everything, if you can still remember all my email before, right after i came home to the Philippines..if im not mistaken that was december 2004...
I just want to be honest with you, situations right now would be comfortable
for me..like im free as i wanna be...i enjoy what im doin right now, like i
can go wherever, whenever i like. This is the first time i experienced,
since my childhood. Its like im just started exploring everything. So,
without any obligations, responsibilities ill be able to do it, i want to
experience it on my own and not with anybody else. Like they said, there's a
deed end in all of this, so that would be the time that i need to face
another chapter or journey that for life already. Time will come that i
myself realized that this is enough and i want to be sure about myself and
say that, this what i really want in my life. but for now, i can't say yet
when and how but i know time will come, only that one never knows. If i had
the chance extending my visa, at least Germany would not be ended yet, for i
know i can still come back here anytime, and one never knows what would be
the next episode if you'll give me the chance to extend my visa. but if not,
so i would say 3rd week of August would be the end of the story.
Talking about the divorce, that would be needed of course if u or me wants to get married with someone else. But for myself, im not in a hurry as im not getting married with anybody, and of course i was not involved with third party. Im just considering yourself if you're engaged with someone else and in a hurry to settle down, so you can file a divorce the soonest. I know divorce involves money again, so if you think you still need to save just for it then why in a hurry but if you think its needed, as you always get into trouble especially when needing my signature so you can file it the sooner.
So i guess this is all for now.... hope you understand and thank you for being considerate...
its me,
bbeth
P.S. if you'll agree, we (lanie & elena) will leave here early on tuesday so we'll arrive in time in tuesday morning...if you're not busy of course... but for sure, it would be ok if you will be the one to arrange the schedule based on your free time. next week is the best schedule as im leaving on the following week already.. thanks and best regards..
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Sent August 7, 8:07 pm
Bbeth,
thank you for your letter and being direct and honest, I really like this. I don't really want to comment your attitude which I find rather irresponsible, but if you think it's the best for you then it's your decision, of course. Actually you are now at a point in life which I reached 10 years ago or even longer. You may still be searching for what you really want, but I don't need to search anymore, as I know what you want. I only wished you could have told me all this *before* the wedding, as it would have saved lots of feelings, pain and money.
I wish you good luck with your next episode you mentioned, as it will be definately without me. I just cannot wait until you will have found yourself finally, I'm sorry. Maybe you can still come to Heilbronn once before your adventure in Germany will end in approx. 2 weeks, as I still have things owned by you - mostly stuff your sister sent etc. Maybe Lanie & Co. can use it or give it away, as it's too sayang for throwing it, I think. I'd ask you to bring the bank account card you got from the "Sparkasse" so I can return it and close this account, please. Also the health insurance card would be good to have it back before you leave. The bank card from the "Postbank" you can throw as it's expired. I think that's all so far, if I forgot something I will let you know.
With regards to the divorce, it's not really really urgent as I'm not
engaged or something - impossible anyway as still being married, diba? But I
want to have clear relations, means I don't know when GOD may provide me a
really grown-up woman and then I want to be able to decide freely without
any "old boundings" needing to be solved first. Maybe you can understand me,
too. Like we already discussed I would be pleasantly surprised if you would
participate in the costs of the divorce, as it's not only my business, I
think. Maybe this is the first time for you taking over some responsibility?
Hoops I overlooked your P.S. when reading your e-mail earlier...
"P.S. if you'll agree, we (lanie & elena) will leave here early on tuesday so we'll arrive in time in tuesday morning...if you're not busy of course... but for sure, it would be ok if you will be the one to arrange the schedule based on your free time. next week is the best schedule as im leaving on the following week already.. thanks and best regards.."
Hmm, I'm sorry but as you know I have to work at this daytime. As I said you can come here in the afternoon and fetch the things I stored here for you, but I think we don't need to go to the city hall. If you or somebody else (maybe Elena) may want to talk to me you can reach me during work time at 07131 xxxxx.
Best regards,
Jörg
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No reply from Bebeth so far...
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Sent August 9, 8:58 pm
Bebeth,
musta ka na? I just talked to Georg and just told him the same I messaged you earlier already. As you know, your visa is valid only in combination with our marriage. As having been away for over 6 months it has automatically expired, as I was told... I really really tried and hoped to change your mind for at least giving our marriage a slight chance, but as you don't know what you really want, I just cannot wait until you've made up your mind and entered the "next episode". We are both older than 30... normally one should have a family and settled down at this age, diba?
You asked me for another chance... hmm, how many chances do you need? You could have had everything including travelling around! When you were here in 2004 I didn't mind you visiting friends in Munich, Bielefeld etc etc. I just couldn't take part as I needed to work... You dumped this chance of your life with your last e-mails by telling me that you don't want anybody in your life at all. So, why, why all this???
Somehow I understand you being enthusiastic about your new impressions, but I can tell you, it's nothing durable. When you're used to it, it's nothing special anymore. You have one big problem until today and I'm sure you know about it. It's depending on others. What would you do without the help of manang Marilyn? What would you have done without the support I sent since 2003? Think about it. I know it's difficult for somebody living in Surigao and actually you already have a great life there as having a cool job etc, but in such a case one shouldn't live beyond one's means, I think.
I hope you understand that it is really impossible for me getting involved with an extension of your visa. You don't want to stay with me, though this is needed for getting this visa, and you actually want to be free again, this means a divorce logically, as I'm looking for a true wife. For a divorce we need to live separated for one year... So logically you cannot live together with me - even if it's on paper only - as this would endanger the divorce, of course. But this also means, that there's no reason for an extension - it would even be illegal. So it's not asking me for a little favor but for breaking the law.
I was told that I actually should have told the aliens office already that you left in October 2004... but I told them that 1) I didn't know about this and 2) I still hoped for your return. At least this way you could have a last visit in Germany and be with your friends. I will NOT tell them your present address or something. Like Georg said, you're about to leave in a few days anyway, so why troubling you... I don't want to cause troubles at all, as I once loved you, my friend.
Sigh... I don't know if we will meet again. Maybe you might come here for fetching your things before leaving, then we could drink a last Milo together, or maybe I might come to Surigao City again one day, as I still like the place, hmm. Maybe I would even have been able to accept you living partially in Surigao and in Germany, but on the other side this would have meant enormous ticket costs etc... I was once dreaming about retiring there later in our own house with a view at the ocean, if possible... A German old age pension combined with those cheap prices there compared to Germany would have assured a great life. Too bad that you didn't have the patience for achieving this.
Best regards,
Jorge
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Still no reply from Bebeth so far...
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