What a birthday... actually our agreement was her returning to my place on December 11 just in time to be here for celebrating together and then this happened. 
During the following weeks we exchanged a couple of e-mails, txt's and talked on the phone occasionally. I also communicated with her friends and even her mom and slowly perceived what was wrong with Bebeth, but still optimistic that the problems could be solved sooner or later, as there wasn't anything too critical. Until...
Well, it was on my birthday on December 14, when I got a message that really hit me hard. The whole day I had waited for her to message or call me, but nothing had happened. It was her older sister who eventually made her sending some sms, but the content was devastating. Surely, she sent her birthday greetings but she also wished me good luck for finding the right woman for me, as "I was deserving this". What a birthday... actually our agreement was her returning to my place on December 11 just in time to be here for celebrating together and then this happened.
The last e-mail was received on December 23 saying that she wanted to cease our communication and she told me, that this would be her last e-mail at all. Thus the half price of her ticket (ca. 350Euro / 24,000PhP) was forfeited later since she did not avail a flight within the prescribed period of half a year...
Unbelievable but true, she stood firm with her decision of not talking to me again. When she noticed tireless effort to stay in contact with her family especially with her mother, who favored me as son-in-law and often sms'ed me to phone her back, she finally even changed the landline number, so I couldn't phone them anymore. The only way of communication left was via cell phone, mainly by sms only. At least I could also chat with a couple of her co-workers at the office and a few family members worldwide. I even met quite a few other people deriving from Surigao City, who settled abroad and tried to comfort me and find answers to my open questions about why all this needed to happen.
On Bebeth's birthday on January 14, 2005 I still sent her some flowers and sweets which really moved her as smsd to me by her cousin. This thought revived my mood momentarily only as no word was heard from her personally. It was clear that something must be initiated to find a solution, as we both were still officially married and I didn't know what she was up to. Rumours about Bebeth being a tomboy or lesbian had made me intuitive to know the truth, finally. In fact, our marriage was never consummated! A chance for me to caress and glance at her body underneath her clothing never came. My hesitation on her real personality strengthened with the time, why she never really wanted me to come nearer. Before the wedding I had understood and accepted, that her customs didn't allow it before marriage, but even afterwards she stayed aloof and unreachable somehow.
Later in a long conversation with the senior pastor at her church, he told me that I should have been more demanding, maybe even be a little bit violently forcing her to have sex with me, but I never did. It's against my culture, customs and attitude anyway. I preferred to wait until she overcame her shyness, but only 2.5 weeks after the wedding she was already gone. All my patience was in vain.